The Bucket List Life

In my opinion too few of us are actually living.  We are getting by, acting like robots.  Our main pursuit is in getting through the day.

We do what is responsible and expected of us.

We stay safe and “color inside the lines.”

Risk is something to be avoided or carefully managed.

A motto to live by.

My motto was always, “Is it worth it?”  That applied to everything.

There were times when my motto was very appropriate:

Is it worth it to have even one glass on wine when you know you are going to drive?

Much of the time it a convenient reason to avoid doing things I didn’t want to do:

Is it worth it to drive to the mall to make your son happy when that means putting extra miles on the lease?

But it also kept me locked in a box.  I often felt trapped:

It is worth it to quit your job when you can maintain the status quo and have no worries about paying the bills?

An interesting turn of fate.

One day I came up with the idea to create a Udemy course about creating a bucket list.  I really didn’t put much thought into the course itself.  I sounded like a fun thing to create and the content came together pretty easily.  I had no idea the impact this course idea would have on my own life.

As a result of the course, I decided to embark on living a Bucket List Life – a life truly well lived.

I had 3 rules for this life:

  1. Being responsible would not be the deciding factor in putting things on my list
  2. Being realistic, including financially realistic, would also not be a factor
  3. Every item on the list had to “feel good” – there was no room for obligatory item or “should’s” on the list.  If I truly didn’t feel excited about an item, it didn’t go on the list

I am such a loser.

As I made this decision and started to re-write my bucket list, I got butterflies in my stomach.  What would I really put on my list?

I stared at my short existing list and felt like a loser.  I had no real desire to do adventure items like jumping off a plane.  I know I am a chicken and I am ok with that.

I also had no real desire to travel the world.  I am a bit of a homebody.  Travel in my opinion was just a hassle.  The best part of a trip for me was coming back home and being able to sleep in my own bed again.

Show me the money.

So what would I put on my list?

Sure, I would love to make a lot of money, but how?  What would really be exciting?  Wouldn’t it be better to focus on what I would do if I had the money?

So I thought about what I would do if I had an unlimited bank account.  I came up with a big blank.  I didn’t want more stuff.  I would rather get rid of most of the stuff that I have.

I didn’t want to go on big trips, buy expensive trinkets, or live in a big house.  I was way too practical for any of that stuff.

Dare to dream.

If I really allowed myself to dream without the restrictions of what was realistic, what I really wanted to do was to build a business that helped people achieve their dreams.

I wanted to have a physical building where people could come a learn, get advice and brainstorm about their ideas.  I wanted to meet with people face-to-face but also to have people around the globe that I was helping.

I wanted to hold “dream” conferences where people would gather from all around the world to start their journey.  I wanted to form a community who supported and encouraged one another to “go for it.”  To live a live worth living!

All I have going for me is desire.

How would I do this?  I am not special.  I don’t know anything about helping someone else achieve their dream.  I don’t have connections to open doors for other people.

I am just an ordinary small town mom working in a dead-end job with no real talents.

How would I create a community?  Who would follow me?  What could I offer?

It starts with one small step.

I decided to start really small.  I was part of a local Facebook group of professional women.  I decided to host an “Idea Party.”  The focus of this party was to brainstorm ideas for the New Year.  What would each attendee want to focus on in the new year?

I also decided to create a Christmas Bucket List as that seemed less overwhelming than a full-blown bucket list.  It was short term and limited in scope.  It was a “safe” way to start.